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The Clean Up Woman


She’s just waiting for the day to hear it. “They are no longer together.”

Everyone is not your friend, but many are “frienemies.” You know, it’s the ones who really don’t care for you but merely tolerates you for some reason that makes it necessary. They may work with you, attend the same church or even be an extended member of the family. In these instances, they usually have to find a way to be cordial, as contact is inevitable.

It is true for women that most of us have a very small circle of friends. True friends that is. The main reason is we get exhausted from the childlike competition, which is sometimes constant, especially for those who believe they have something to prove to another. It starts with who is prettier or who has the better body, home, car, oh! and yes MAN, if you both even have one of those!

With the ratio of men to women now days, along with some women having low self-esteem, feelings of inferiority, desperate to have a man around and longing for someone to love, there are those who will stoop to the lowest of the lows to get their desires fulfilled, even if it means getting a “Big Momma Beat Down!” I laughed to myself as I just wrote that but it’s true!

It is already known that women don’t play! Do not mess with our children and don’t mess with our man! R.E.S.P.E.C.T that’s our national anthem to those women who over step their boundaries.

No! He doesn’t need you as a “bestie” go find you a female “bestie”. You don’t have any business calling his phone, texting him, mothering him, telling him how good he smells, bringing him cough syrup and orange juice when he’s not feeling well, bringing him lunch or donuts in the morning, loaning or giving him money, (you really look desperate doing that especially), listening to his problems and the list goes on.

For those of you who are naive and/or too trusting, this chick-a-dee is so good with her game that she probably tried to talk you out of being with him from the start, yet he’s good enough to be her friend and confidant some time later on down the road? This is where I throw you a couple of red flags!

She’s watching your relationship like a hawk. She studies his moods, facial expressions and body language. She shares personal stories with him, which allows him to also open up to her. She gets so comfortable that she actually thinks she knows him! It’s gone way too far when she gets to the point of actually making inquiries on the status of his relationship.

Your man is not going to even notice. He’s too caught up in the attention, even if he would never give her a second look in regards to attraction, men love to be taken care of, and having a woman to listen and empathize with his issues is comforting to him and makes him feel important.

…..and in case you also didn’t notice.

The Clean Up Woman is usually:

Not at all “his type”
Has very low self esteem
Weighs a few extra pounds (so do a lot of us! Lol)
Has been used by men over and over
Buys love
Has to have a man
Has been cheated on but stayed
Beat on or verbally abused
A YES girl

Open your eyes!

6 comments on “The Clean Up Woman

  1. Darlene Ditto Mathews
    February 10, 2014

    Tell the truth. They are out there. I know a few that used to be just like that back in the day – but God!

  2. janetheard0821gmailcom
    September 28, 2016

    Yes! And, it should not be. Like Sheryl Underwood once said in her comedy routine, “If the Avon lady come by, and my man around, she can throw the order on the lawn, and keep moving!” Women are competitive, and a lot of them are just dirty.

    • Tonda Mingus
      September 28, 2016

      Ha ha ha! I like that in Sheryl! Yes some are just ratchet and desperate. This story is true for a relationship that I was in!

      • janetheard0821gmailcom
        September 28, 2016

        Yes I felt it’s truth. I’ve been there. I think we all have. I don’t understand it. Most chicks that I call friend, or have a personality that I like, don’t even like the kind of man that I’m attracted to…yet somehow, I become a threat. I guess it’s the cattiness in the female nature. Simple minded to me tho. Is that wrong?

      • Tonda Mingus
        September 28, 2016

        I totally agree and that’s why this is actually the first time in my adult life that I can actually say I have a best friend and true friend. Sad but true.

      • janetheard0821gmailcom
        September 28, 2016

        Cherish that! I am, for the first time in 30 years, without even one…no one to hang with, go to church with, just talk to. After the implosion of the last one, I just kinda stay solo. Maybe one day, God will send one…if I manage to leave the house😂 Though, I do thank Him for FB. I see a lot, learn a lot, about what that friendship should have been. And I’m thankful

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